[FREE MASTERCLASS] What I learned 4 years after my marriage ended

Published 1 day ago • 1 min read

4 years ago, in September 2021, my marriage ended.

Some would call it "an avoidant discard".

I just remember the silence.

The house echoing differently.

The confusion of “How did we get here?”

I didn’t know it then, but I wasn’t just grieving losing my wife.

I was grieving the version of me I had been with her.

The home we built.

The image of the future I thought we’d have.

It took me 6 months just to name what I was feeling.

Grief.

Loss.

Fear.

Shame.

Then another 12 months to find the path out:

to rebuild myself into someone I respected again.

To become emotionally regulated.

Clear.

Stable.

Attractive.

Not because I was chasing validation.

But because I was anchored in self-trust again.

And when I finally rebuilt my marriage on new terms,

I realized something simple but life-changing:

It doesn’t need to take 18 months.

It doesn’t even need to take 6.

There are only 6 steps.

And when followed in the right order...

they can get anyone from heartbreak into grounded stability...

in as little as 6 weeks.

That’s what I’m teaching in this new free masterclass:

“How to Get Back in Control After a Breakup

(Even If You’re Caught in the Anxious - Avoidant Loop)”

Friday, October 24th at 11 AM EST

75 minutes

Raw.

Real.

Practical.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

✅ How to end the 3am spiral without white-knuckling or numbing out

✅ How to break the anxious - avoidant loop by fixing physiology first

✅ How to stop DM relapse & social stalking with one simple protocol

✅ How to regain control at work while your heart heals

✅ How to install a “calm system” that actually sticks

If you’ve ever felt like your brain says “move on”...

but your body refuses to listen...

this is for you.

💌 Reserve your free seat here → breakup.loveleaders.life

To calm over chaos.

Matus

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