I Wish I Had THIS When She Dumped Me


When my wife broke up with me a few years ago, I thought I was doing all the “right” things.

  • I talked it out.
  • I tried to stay “mature.”
  • I kept myself busy.

I told myself time would heal it.

It didn’t.

Looking back now, I can see I was making the same 5 mistakes I now see almost everyone make after a breakup.

Not because we’re stupid.

Because no one ever told us what not to do.

I didn’t know these were mistakes.

I thought they were helping.

In reality, they were quietly feeding the craving and keeping me hooked.

Long after the relationship ended.

I’ve now watched dozens of clients do the same thing.

Different stories.

Different exes.

Same patterns.

So I made the video I wish someone had made for me back then:

🎥 5 Crucial Breakup Mistakes (Avoid #3 At All Costs!)

👉 Watch it here

In the video, I walk you through:

  • why “time will heal it” is only half the truth,
  • how withdrawal actually works after a breakup,
  • and the 5 specific mistakes that keep you stuck in the loop.

Once you recognize them, you can finally stop repeating them.

If this video helps even one person avoid what I went through, it’s worth it.

One request - as you watch, think of someone in your life who is:

  • in a rough patch in their relationship,
  • going through a breakup or separation, or
  • clearly not themselves because of love.

Forward them this email or send them the video directly.

We don’t always know what to say to people in pain.

Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is quietly hand them a map.

This video is for the past version of me who didn’t know better.

And for the present version of someone out there who finally will.

Blessings to you,

Matus

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