Sitting across from a client the other day, I ask them to do something that feels… well, impossible:

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“Forget your problems for a moment,”

“I know they’re heavy. I know they’ve defined your days and stolen your nights. But just for now—can you put a pin in them?”

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Their eyes dart around the room like they are trying to find an exit.

I see the panic settle behind their ribs.

The disbelief that it could be so simple.

The quiet war between wanting to move forward and staying loyal to their pain.

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Because that’s the thing about collapse:

It convinces you that your pain is your identity.

That if you let go of the story, you’ll disappear too.

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But I don’t ask my clients to forget their pain forever.

I just ask them to shift their gaze.

To imagine a different horizon.

One where they’ve already lived through the wreckage.

Where they healed the scars.

Being on the other side.

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I ask them:

“One year from now, who do you see?

What do they look like?

How do they hold themselves?

What’s different about the way they breathe?

Speak?

Love?”

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And for a split second, the confusion in their eyes fades.

Something ancient in their bones remembers that they’re more than the sum of their heartbreaks.

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Here’s the hidden truth:

You don’t lack motivation.

You lack a vision that’s potent enough to pull you forward.

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Because when your goals are small...

Like just getting by, or surviving the day...

Your brain short-circuits on all the things that could go wrong.

It’s like trying to steer a car by staring at the potholes.

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But when you see the future version of yourself...

Healed, whole, and unapologetically alive...

You stop asking, “Can I get through this?”

And ask, “Who am I becoming?”

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And that shift?

It’s everything.

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It’s like standing at the edge of a vast ocean, afraid to dive in.

But instead of focusing on the waves...

You picture yourself already floating...

Calm.

Steady.

Breathing easy.

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You’re not denying the water’s depth.

You’re choosing to trust that you can make it across.

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You don’t need a detailed map.

You just need a reason to take the first stroke.

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That’s why I ask my clients to meet their future self before diving into the chaos of their past.

Because from that vantage point...

Where they’ve already survived...

They can look back at the wreckage and realize it’s just debris, not destiny.

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So let me ask you this:

What story are you telling yourself about the collapse?

That it’s the end?

That it’s proof you’re broken?

That you’ll never be able to rise again?

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Or maybe, just maybe, it’s the call to remember who you were before the pain took over.

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If you’re ready to meet that version of you...

If you’re done carrying the weight of heartbreak, grief, and regret alone...

I invite you to join me in PROJECT PHOENIX™, my 1:1 program to help you rise from the ashes of emotional collapse.

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Because you haven’t lost yourself forever.

You’re just waiting for a vision strong enough to call you home.

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​Book a free Clarity call with me here. ​

Let’s start the journey back to who you really are.

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