Daily Insight on How to Attract and Keep Secure Love You Deserve Without Abandoning Yourself, Chasing Your Partner, or Endless Therapy.
Why they go cold right when you get close
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You’re finally connecting. Things feel warm, open, intimate. And then—They shut down. No warning. No explanation. Just silence. Most people assume this means disinterest, selfishness, or worse—emotional immaturity. But there’s something deeper going on here. Something that isn’t about you at all. Avoidants don’t pull away because they don’t care. They pull away because they do. Their nervous system sees connection as a threat. Their body doesn’t register closeness as comfort—it registers it as danger. So the moment things start to feel real, their brain sounds the alarm: Get out. Withdraw. Shut down. This isn’t personal. It’s physiological. But if you don’t understand this, you’ll keep making it about you. You’ll try harder, push more, or shut down yourself. And the cycle continues. No one teaches you how to read these patterns—let alone how to respond to them. More on that soon. Matus P.S. The Life Designers community is currently closed, but if you want to join the waitlist for early access and upcoming insights, just reply with “waitlist.” P.P.S: And if you're interested in a deep dive about Avoidants, check out my YouTube video below: |
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Daily Insight on How to Attract and Keep Secure Love You Deserve Without Abandoning Yourself, Chasing Your Partner, or Endless Therapy.
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